How to Deal With Insecurity (And Use It as an Advantage)
Let’s be real—feeling insecure is something literally every single person deals with. And if anyone tells you they don’t, they’re probably lying or just not tuned in yet. Jaclyn and Sam cracked open this convo on The Freq Show in a way that felt like a cozy, soul-stretching coffee chat. No filters. No shame. Just truth.
They’re not here to tell you to "just be confident" or fake it till you make it. They’re here to remind you that insecurity doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you. It means something inside of you is ready to be looked at with a little more love and a lot less judgment. If you’ve ever felt that inner dissonance, Jaclyn’s breakdown on how to vibe check yourself is a total game-changer.
How to Deal With Insecurity
This episode goes deep—and not in a heavy way, but in a you’re not alone and we’ve got you kind of way. Jaclyn and Sam shared how insecurities show up, why they’re more normal than anyone likes to admit, and how we can start actually moving through them instead of letting them run the show.
The Importance of Owning Insecurity
You guys, here’s the truth no one’s talking about enough: insecurity doesn’t mean you're broken. It means you're human. And when Jaclyn and Sam sat down to record this episode of The Freq Show, they brought the realest take on why insecurity might actually be one of your greatest advantages.
Because feeling inadequate in a social setting, spiraling in negative self-talk, or wondering if you're worthy of love? That doesn’t make you weak. It makes you aware. And awareness is power.
This isn’t about pretending you’re super confident all the time. It's about learning to pause, pay attention, and use that shaky energy as fuel for transformation—whether in your relationships, your career, or your sense of self-worth.
When you feel those twinges of insecurity rise up—especially in social situations or when you scroll through social media—it’s easy to let them take over. But here’s the reframe: insecurity is your cue to go inward.
Jaclyn talked about how when you know what makes you feel inadequate, you can begin healing that story. That’s how we shift from lack of confidence to grounded presence.
The Different Types of Insecurities
There’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to insecurity. Jaclyn and Sam touched on some big ones that so many of us feel but rarely say out loud:
Personal Insecurities
You know, those thoughts that whisper you're not attractive enough, smart enough, good enough, whatever enough. They hit right where it hurts—and they’re usually rooted in old stories we never asked to carry.
Professional Insecurities
Whether it’s imposter syndrome, fear of being seen, or feeling stuck at work—this kind of stuff shows up when we start questioning our place or worth in the world.
Social Insecurities
Feeling out of place in a group. Wondering if people really like you. Replaying convos in your head. We’ve all been there.
And the more aware we are of what kind of insecurity we’re dealing with, the more compassion we can offer ourselves instead of criticism. The point is, insecurity wears many hats—but every single one is a chance to grow. And part of that growth? Learning when to lean back. This post on learning to surrender is a must-read if you're craving more softness with yourself.
How to Maintain Focus and Overcome Insecurities
Okay—now let’s talk real tools. Jaclyn and Sam weren’t just talking theory here. They gave real, grounded ways to start healing this stuff.
Rewrite the Narrative
Start catching those negative thoughts. Write them down. Then ask—what’s the truth underneath this fear? What would it look like to rewrite this story with love instead of shame? If you’re ready to really shift what you believe is possible for you, this post on rewiring your mind for wild success breaks it down in a way that just hits.
Remember You Are Worthy of Love
Insecurity often tells us we’re not lovable. But your worth has never been up for debate. You are inherently worthy—period. The more you connect with that truth, the more you’ll show up with confidence.
Support Your Mental Health
Taking care of your nervous system is key. Daily practices like meditation, journaling, or breathwork help you anchor into a stronger sense of self-worth. Even small rituals help you feel emotionally grounded.
Speak Kindly to Yourself
Your inner dialogue matters. If your self-talk is full of judgment or harshness, you’ll stay stuck in insecurity. Try this: every time you notice negative self-talk, say something kind to yourself out loud. Yes, out loud.
Pay Attention to Triggers
Notice what situations or people tend to spark insecurity. Not to avoid them, but to understand what they’re teaching you. Insecurity is a teacher—don’t ignore the lesson.
Set Boundaries With Social Media
It’s not news that social media can feed feelings of inadequacy. Unfollow anyone who makes you feel like you’re not enough. Follow accounts that uplift you. Your digital space should reflect your values.
Focus on What You Can Control
Jaclyn always says—take back your power. And your power is in your choices. You may not control how others see you, but you absolutely get to decide how you show up. Let that guide you forward. Jaclyn and Sam has a whole post on how to hold your vision and stay focused even when the world feels loud—it’s one of those pieces that makes you feel seen and unstoppable.
Final Thought
Insecurity doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means something beautiful inside of you is ready to be healed.
Jaclyn and Sam’s conversation was a big reminder that the way out isn’t perfection—it’s presence. It’s choosing to meet ourselves in the messy middle with gentleness and truth.
And if you’re feeling a little cracked open right now, good. That means light can get in.
Live on purpose. Live on frequency.
Ien Araneta - editor of The Freq Show & The Beckon Times
