How To Heal Your Mind: Transforming Your Thoughts for Higher Frequency Living
There’s a quiet, powerful truth that runs through every high-frequency life: your outer world shifts when your inner world does.
Jaclyn Steele Thurmond and her husband, Sam, know this from experience. In this episode of The Freq Show, they explored one of their favorite topics — how to heal your mind by transforming the thoughts we allow to live there.
This isn’t about slapping a smiley face on a bad day. It’s about the deep, intentional practice of choosing thoughts that align with love, health, and possibility — even when fear or frustration would be easier to reach for.
How To Heal Your Mind
Your Mind as a Garden
Jaclyn likes to picture the mind as a garden. Every thought you plant grows into something — and not all seeds produce nourishing fruit.
“If we are planting negative thoughts, the plants that are going to result are not going to be very fruitful,” she explained. “But if we’re planting positive thoughts — or even neutral thoughts instead of negative ones — our mind garden will be healthier.”
Sam added that negative thought patterns are easy to fall into because we’re wired for protection and survival. If we’re not paying attention, our minds will default to worry. That’s why awareness is the first step in healing the mind — noticing the weeds before they overtake the garden.
Thinking of your mind like a garden reminds me of how gratitude helps cultivate the soil of our inner world—which I explore more in How Gratitude Changes Everything
How to Change Your Thoughts for Higher Frequency Living
Real transformation happens when we choose to reframe. Jaclyn shared how this works in real life, especially with relationships that might be challenging.
Before spending time with someone who triggers her, she now sets a new mental tone: This person is doing their best. They’re speaking from their own experience. They deserve the dignity of their perspective.
That mental shift changes her energy going in — and, as Sam pointed out, “people will match your energy.” When you enter a space with openness instead of defense, you invite a different kind of interaction.
When Thoughts Affect the Body
Our thoughts don’t just live in our heads. They send messages to the body, influencing our chemistry, nervous system, and even our long-term health.
Jaclyn shared her own story of being diagnosed with Hashimoto’s thyroiditis in 2020. Alongside the medical factors, she noticed patterns in her thoughts: When will it be my turn? and a habit of holding back her voice to avoid upsetting others.
“As I’ve become more vocal, created better boundaries, and pursued what I truly want, my health has improved,” she said. “Thinking better thoughts reframes the way I look at my life — and that shift matters.”
Poor mental health can also contribute to physical issues like heart disease or chronic inflammation over time. That’s why tending to your inner dialogue isn’t just emotional work — it’s whole-body wellness.
Steps to Heal Your Mind
Step 1: Awareness
Pay attention to your inner dialogue. Are your recurring thoughts limiting, fearful, or negative? Write them down if they feel especially “sticky” so you can see them clearly.
Step 2: Reframing
For every limiting thought, choose one that feels more empowering. If I’ll never be successful feels too heavy to flip into I’m wildly successful, try a bridge thought like I’m taking steps every day toward my success. Small, believable shifts are more sustainable.
Step 3: Visualization (or Feeling-ization)
If sitting still to visualize is hard, try vision boards, journaling, or Jaclyn’s practice of “future frequency composing” — writing as your future self and feeling the emotions of already living that reality.
Step 4: Consistency
Just like lifting weights builds muscle, retraining your thoughts builds mental strength. Consistency reinforces new pathways; slipping back into old patterns strengthens the old ones instead.
Practicing these steps feels like building scenery before your scenes emerge—kind of like how I share in How To Change Your Frequency—shifting energy with intention and joy.
How To Strengthen Your Mindset
Healing your mind isn’t a one-time effort — it’s a daily practice. Here are a few extra ways to strengthen your mental health so it supports the life you want to live:
Practice Daily Gratitude
Before falling asleep, list three things you’re grateful for — no matter how small. This shifts your focus from lack to abundance and sets your brain up for more positive thinking.
Limit Negative Inputs
Notice how you feel after scrolling social media or watching the news. If you feel drained, consider setting boundaries around these activities to protect your mental energy.
Move Your Body
Regular movement — whether it’s walking, yoga, or dancing in your kitchen — supports both mental and physical health, reducing stress hormones and improving mood.
Anchor Into Breath
When overwhelm hits, pause and take five deep breaths. This simple reset helps calm the nervous system and brings your mind back to the present.
Surround Yourself With Encouragement
Spend time with people, books, or podcasts that uplift and inspire you. The voices you allow in shape the thoughts you cultivate.
If you’ve ever wrestled with self-sabotage while trying to grow, our post on The Frequency of Self-Sabotage: Why Growth Feels Unsafe serves as a loving companion with tools to move through that resistance.
Pulling Weeds Before They Take Over
Sam shared that for him, the biggest danger zone is bedtime. One stray thought can snowball into a mental Rolodex of worries if he doesn’t stop it early.
His approach? Immediate redirection. “I think about something I’m grateful for or just say, ‘Nope, we’re not going there right now.’”
Jaclyn loves a question from author Byron Katie: What does it feel like if I’m without this thought? Sometimes just recognizing the freedom you’d feel without a thought makes it easier to let it go.
Final Reflection: Your Thoughts Are Seeds
The mind is powerful. Your thoughts can shape the way you experience life — for better or worse. The question is, what are you planting?
As Sam put it: “Your thoughts have the ability to literally shape your reality. Why not choose thoughts that align with the life you actually want to create?”
And if you need help shifting those thoughts, The Freq App is there — a pocket best friend for encouragement, comfort, and clarity, anytime you need it.
So, what’s one thought you can start transforming today? Watch what grows when you plant it with love.
Live on purpose. Live on frequency.
Ien Araneta - editor of The Freq Show & The Beckon Times
