Jaclyn has always said the frequency of belief is simple: decide what you want, act on it, and believe relentlessly that it will be yours. In this episode-turned-blog, she and Sam open the curtain on how that philosophy plays out in real life—especially when two people love each other deeply but see the path differently. Their story is equal parts tender and practical, a roadmap for any couple ready to move from “me and you” to same team, same dream.

“Early on, our visions were fighting each other,” Jaclyn admits. “Only recently have we really become a well-oiled machine.”

“Make the vision getting on the same page,” Sam adds. “Even if you don’t know the plan yet—commit to alignment first.”

Why a Relationship Vision Matters

From newlyweds on a military base to entrepreneurs, parents, and cross-country movers, they’ve lived through season after season. What changed most wasn’t just their zip code; it was their shared vision.

Emotional harmony: “It just feels good to be on the same page,” Jaclyn shares. Weekly rhythms smooth out. Resentment fades. Weekends exhale.
Exponential momentum: “When we join forces,” she says, “things manifest faster.” Their business and financial growth over the last few years reflect that truth.
Spiritual anchor: “Where two or three gather…,” Sam reminds us. Alignment multiplies faith, peace, and perseverance when life pivots.

Same Team, Same Dream: How to Align Your Relationship Vision — *Jaclyn Steele Thurmond and Sam Thurmond at Villa Secreta*

Same Team, Same Dream: Unspoken to Spoken

There was a time when Jaclyn’s creative calling and Sam’s need for stability felt oceans apart.

The early years: She chased music and possibility; he carried duty and provision. “I didn’t know how to fully buy in,” Sam says honestly. “I couldn’t see how to provide and pursue the dream.”
The strain: Multiple moves, deployments, and career switches tested them. “It’s kind of a miracle we’re still together,” Jaclyn laughs, “and proof of how committed we are.”
The pivot: Selling everything, living in an RV, having Roman—hard, humbling, clarifying. “Out of necessity, we became the team,” she says. In that tiny space, they finally wrote down what they wanted: income goals, where they’d live, how they’d travel, even what car she’d drive. “I still have those papers,” Sam smiles.

The Vision Exercise They Still Use

If you’re feeling out of sync, steal their simple flow. Keep it gentle; keep it real.

1) Name the North Star (Together)

One-year vision: How do we want to feel daily? What does health, work, faith, and home look like in our ideal week?
Five-year vision: What are we building—career, home base(s), travel rhythms, community, investments?
Twenty-year vision: Legacy, lifestyle, locations. “We’ll be in Italy, clinking wine glasses, making our own olive oil,” Jaclyn grins. “Working only if we want to.”

Tip: Don’t argue details at first. Agree on the feeling and the direction.

2) Write It Down (In Ink)

They taped their vision where they’d see it daily (the RV fridge back then). “Say it, see it, schedule it” became the cadence.

Shared journal (hers, his, ours)
Friday 20-minute check-ins: “Are we still on track? What needs adjusting?”

3) Plan for Peace of Mind

Sam’s current favorite: the Dyrdek method—five years of expenses saved as liquid peace. “It’s not about perfect math; it’s about sleeping well,” he says. Jaclyn adds, “I want more money than we know what to do with—so we can be wildly generous and wise.”

4) Hire + Systemize So You Can Be Present

They’re building support at work and at home (hello, house management) to be more present with their boys and with each other. “Freedom is time and attention,” Jaclyn says. “We’re optimizing for both.”

Expectations, Communication, and Grace

They don’t gloss over the messier parts. Disagreements used to spiral: Jaclyn presenting airtight “cases,” Sam shutting down. Today, there’s more compassion, pace, and respect.

Ask, don’t assume: “Your partner can’t read your mind,” she says.
Say the quiet part out loud: “If you need help, say it. If you need rest, say it. If you need to re-talk the plan, say it.”
Respect perspectives: “Even if I think he’s wrong,” Jaclyn laughs, “that perspective is real for him. I honor it first.”

When You Don’t Know the Plan (Yet)

If your visions feel far apart, borrow Sam’s minimalist move:

Make the vision getting aligned.
“We didn’t know how to bridge the gap for years,” he says. “But if both people commit to alignment, the path appears a lot faster.”

Start with this:

We’re committed to each other.
We’re committed to getting on the same page.
We’ll check in weekly and rewrite the plan as we grow.

Their Current Vision (Cliff Notes)

Next 12 months: Build deeper routines post-baby, stack cash (1–5 years of expenses), add investments (real estate, commercial assets, stocks, some crypto), hire help to be more present at home, plan core-memory adventures with the boys.
Five years: An Italy summer home, legacy-minded wealth, more travel, hobbies, and long weekends. “Working because we love it, not because we have to.”
Twenty years: Italy (or Greece), olive oil, dancing in the kitchen, projects only if they choose. “The life we love, slowly, intentionally, fully,” Jaclyn says.

Try This

Micro-vision date (30 minutes): One-, five-, and twenty-year prompts. No fixing, no debating. Just listening and notes.
Friday check-ins: Ten minutes to celebrate a win, adjust one thing, and plan one tiny step.
Core memory on purpose: Pick one spontaneous family moment (gelato run, sunset walk, sparkle-in-their-eyes dinner). Put it on the calendar and actually go.

Final Thought

Alignment isn’t about becoming the same person; it’s about choosing the same horizon. Write it down. Revisit it. Give thanks in the fog. And when in doubt, make the vision this: we’re getting on the same page, together.

Live on purpose. Live on frequency.

Ien Araneta - editor of The Freq Show & The Beckon Times

Same Team, Same Dream: How to Align Your Relationship Vision