Relationships Are Frequency Exchanges: How to Attract High-Vibe People
Let’s talk about something we all feel but don’t always know how to name—the energy between us. In this heart-centered episode of The Freq Show, Jaclyn and Sam unpack a truth that so many of us need to hear: every relationship is an energetic exchange.
That means your connections—romantic, platonic, familial, professional—are either fueling you or draining you. And when you start tuning in to how people make you feel, you begin to realize: this isn’t about vibes being trendy. This is about frequency being sacred.
Because here’s the thing—who you allow in your life matters. It affects your peace. Your purpose. Your nervous system. Your future.
Relationships Are Energy. Period.
Jaclyn shares this with so much compassion and clarity: you’re not crazy for feeling off around certain people. You’re not being “too sensitive” when your body tightens or your spirit dims. That’s your frequency picking up on a mismatch.
The people we spend time with are either in alignment with where we’re headed—or they’re keeping us anchored in old versions of ourselves.
Sam brings this perspective home: we often attract what we’re energetically available for. So if your life is full of relationships that leave you feeling unseen, undervalued, or exhausted—it might be time for a gentle, honest check-in with yourself.
“What am I putting out into the world? And what am I still saying yes to, even though my soul is screaming no?”
That’s not about shame. That’s about power. And healing.
The Real Work Is Internal (But It’s Felt Everywhere)
Before we can call in aligned, nourishing relationships, we have to look at the frequency we’re holding—not in performance, but in practice.
Are we honoring our needs?
Are we being honest about what we’re available for?
Are we still trying to earn love instead of receiving it?
Jaclyn shares how, for years, she tried to be who people needed her to be—shapeshifting, overextending, staying small. Until she realized: that wasn’t love. That was survival. And that kind of performance will never lead to soul-aligned connection.
As she began to own her truth, live her purpose, and raise her frequency from the inside out… everything shifted. Everything.
And the same can happen for you.
Want to Attract High-Vibe People? Start Here:
Here are a few soul-tuned reminders from Jaclyn + Sam to help you magnetize the right kind of connection:
Take care of your nervous system.
Prioritize your mental health. Rest. Breathe. Regulate. Relationships flourish when your body feels safe.
Practice gratitude.
Gratitude is an energetic amplifier. When you root into what’s working, you expand your capacity for joy—and attract more of it.
Love your own company.
When your own energy is enough, you stop chasing crumbs. You wait for the feast.
Be clear about your boundaries.
Not everyone gets access to the deepest parts of you—and that’s not rude, it’s holy.
Align your relationships with your career aspirations and purpose.
Want to live longer, feel better, and grow deeper? Surround yourself with people who see your vision and help you rise into it.
Check the mirror, not the mask.
Ask: What am I broadcasting? What am I settling for? What do I actually want to feel in my relationships?
If you're still untangling from insecurity, you can check out this blog: How to Deal With Insecurity: Turning Self-Doubt Into Strength. It’s tender, empowering, and will help you stand taller in your truth.
This Isn’t Just About Dating
Jaclyn is crystal clear—this isn’t a convo just for romantic dynamics. This is about every human exchange. Your coworkers. Your friends. Your family. Even the barista you see every morning.
The relationships you keep are either reinforcing the person you used to be, or reflecting the version of you you’re becoming.
That’s why doing the inner work matters. Because when you live your life awake—when you live with purpose, on purpose—you start attracting people who aren’t afraid of your growth. People who say, “I see you.” People who help you rise.
Need more support while doing life with someone else? You’ll love this: How To Align Energetically With Your Partner.
Final Thought: You Are the Frequency Setter
Here’s the truth Jaclyn and Sam want to leave you with:
You get to choose what you allow in your life. You get to set the tone. You get to raise the frequency.
You don’t need to wait for anyone else to validate you. You don’t have to dim your light or explain your boundaries.
Just start showing up as the version of you who is already loved, already worthy, already magnetic.
Because when you start living like the person you want to meet—you’ll attract them.
And when you’re surrounded by people who match your frequency, life doesn’t just feel easier…
…it feels brighter.
Live on purpose. Live on frequency.
Ien Araneta - editor of The Freq Show & The Beckon Times
