Encouragement for New Moms
I can still remember those first days after my baby was born. The joy, the wonder, the scent of a newborn’s head… and also the tears, the sleepless nights, and the feeling that I’d never get ahead of the constant needs.
Becoming a mom is one of life’s most exciting and rewarding experiences. But let’s be honest—when the initial rush of birth settles and you’re left with a brand-new little human depending on you for everything, it can also feel deeply challenging and overwhelming.
And that’s where encouragement comes in.
In the early days of motherhood, a few encouraging words from a friend, a partner, or even a stranger at the coffee shop can change the whole trajectory of your day. They can remind you that you’re not failing, you’re not alone, and that you are, in fact, a great mom—even on the days when you don’t feel like one.
Today, I want to share a round-up of encouragement for new moms—things I wish someone had told me when I was in the thick of it, and things I’m telling myself as I prepare for another season with a newborn.
Encouragement for New Moms: Heartfelt Ways Friends and Family Can Help
Sometimes, what a new mother needs most isn’t advice—it’s recognition. A knowing nod. A word that tells her, “I see you, and you’re doing an amazing job.”
When you’re adjusting to life with a baby, there’s so much you can’t control. Your body is healing. Your baby’s sleep is unpredictable. Your emotions can feel like a rollercoaster. And in the middle of it all, hearing something affirming can help you feel seen in a way that quiets the self-doubt.
In this post, I’m sharing:
Gentle ways to support a new mom in your life
Specific encouraging words you can share to lift her up
Simple gestures that mean more than you realize
Whether you’re a partner, a family member, a friend, or a fellow mom, these reminders will help you offer the kind of support that actually lands.
How to Encourage New Moms
Listen Without Judgment
Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for a new mom is to simply listen. No fixing. No comparing. No unsolicited advice.
When you give her space to be a mom to share her fears, frustrations, and small victories, you tell her her feelings matter. You tell her she’s not alone.
And here’s the thing—you’ll find (you’ll find) that the more you just listen, the more she’ll open up.
Offer Practical Help
Encouragement doesn’t have to be only verbal. Bringing over a meal, doing a load of laundry, or surprising her with a gift card to her favorite coffee shop can speak volumes.
Small acts like these remind her that she doesn’t have to do it all alone. That her community—whether it’s friends or family—is willing to stand in the gap.
Remind Her She’s Doing an Amazing Job
Sometimes a new mom just needs to hear, “You are doing an amazing job.”
Even if she feels like she’s barely surviving, those words can be the lifeline that gets her through the day.
It’s not about perfection. It’s about showing up, loving her baby, and trying—again and again. That’s what makes her a great mom.
Create a Judgment-Free Zone
Motherhood comes with so many choices: feeding methods, sleep approaches, routines… and everyone has an opinion.
One of the best ways to support a new mom is to create a safe space where she can be honest without worrying about judgment. If she feels comfortable, she’ll share more openly—and that in itself is a huge relief.
Validate the Hard Days
Every new mom will have moments where she’ll feel overwhelmed. She might question whether she’s cut out for this. She might wonder if her baby’s crying means she’s doing something wrong.
On those days, instead of offering quick fixes, tell her:
“Don’t worry—you’re not alone. This is hard, but it won’t always feel this way.”
Share Resources
Sometimes encouragement is connecting her to something that will lighten her load or lift her spirits. Share podcasts, uplifting Instagram accounts, or blog posts that speak to her heart.
One of my favorites for grounding and practical support is my own post on new mom essentials. It’s a loving guide full of tools to help make the postpartum period a little softer.
And if she’s navigating a lot of emotional shifts or feeling mentally stretched thin, I can’t recommend The Freq App enough. It’s full of high-vibe audio sessions, frequency resets, and gentle encouragement she can listen to anytime—whether she’s feeding the baby at 3 a.m. or taking a quiet moment for herself.
Check In Regularly
Don’t wait for her to reach out—because chances are, she’s too tired to. A simple text that says, “Thinking of you—how’s today going?” can make her feel remembered.
You never know… she might be sitting in her rocking chair in the middle of a nap strike, needing exactly that reminder.
What Do You Say to Encourage New Moms?
Here are some phrases you can keep in your back pocket. Share them when you see her in person, send them in a text, or tuck them into a card:
“You’re doing an amazing job.”
“You’re such a great mom.”
“You are exactly the mother your baby needs.”
“Don’t worry—this phase won’t last forever.”
“You’re stronger than you think.”
“I’m here. What do you need right now?”
“Your love for your baby is so evident.”
“You’re not alone in this.”
“I see how hard you’re working—it’s inspiring.”
“It’s okay to rest. You deserve it.”
Final Thoughts
If you’re here because you love a new mom, let me just say—she may not remember every word you speak to her right now, but she will remember how you made her feel.
This season is tender. It’s full of contradictions—joy and exhaustion, gratitude and grief, deep love and uncertainty. And while you can’t take away her sleepless nights or carry all of her worries, you can help her carry the weight of them.
Sometimes it’s showing up with her favorite latte.
Sometimes it’s sending a text at 10 p.m. that simply says, “I’m thinking of you.”
Sometimes it’s telling her, straight from the heart, “You are a great mom, and you’re doing a great job.”
It doesn’t have to be big or polished. It just has to be real.
When we show up for the mothers in our lives—when we offer our hands, our hearts, and our time—we remind them they’re not doing this alone. We remind them there’s a circle of love holding them, even on the hardest days.
And that reminder, sweet friend, can mean more than you will ever know.
Live on Purpose. Live on Frequency.
Jaclyn Steele Thurmond