How to Make Your Home Reflect Your Personality
There’s something powerful about walking into a space that feels like you. A home is more than walls, furniture, and finishes — it’s a reflection of the people who live inside. Jaclyn and Sam Thurmond believe that learning how to make your home reflect your personality isn’t about following trends, but about creating a sanctuary that matches your energy, values, and story.
They built Beckon Living on this very belief: that high-frequency living begins at home. If the place you spend your most intimate hours doesn’t resonate with who you truly are, it’s hard to carry that same grounded energy out into the world.
How to Make Your Home Reflect Your Personality in Everyday Design
When Jaclyn described their own home, her face lit up. She shared how her favorite room — their library — wasn’t the “typical” choice. Most people want the kitchen to be the heart of the house, but for her, the library is the brain. “These books are my friends,” she said warmly. Surrounded by stories, wisdom, and creativity, the room feels like an extension of her personality.
Designing that space wasn’t practical at first. They considered saving the shelves for later, but ultimately, choosing to invest in it changed the whole design project. That choice shifted their home from functional to deeply personal — and that’s exactly the point.
Your version of a “library” may look completely different. Maybe it’s a craft room, a sun-soaked porch, or a kitchen designed for family gatherings. Whatever it is, when you lean into the spaces that bring you joy, your home begins to reflect the truest version of you.
Why Personalization Matters
Learning how to make your home reflect your personality starts with recognizing the power of energy. Jaclyn often tells her clients, “When you live in a space that reflects who you are, your energy is different. You go out into the world different.”
Sam agreed: “It becomes a source of inspiration. Not one for everybody, but that’s not the point. It should resonate with you.”
A personalized home is like a mirror — it reflects what you value most. It doesn’t need to be magazine-worthy or appeal to everyone online. Instead, it should whisper back to you: This is who I am. This is what matters to me.
Tips for Designing a Home That Feels Like You
Mood Boards & Inspiration
Start by noticing what catches your eye and makes your heart leap. Jaclyn often encourages her clients to create mood boards with Pinterest or magazine clippings. Look for images that evoke a feeling — not just what looks trendy.
If you pause on a photo and think, I want to live in that space, that’s a clue. If your body relaxes when you see a certain color palette, follow it. As Jaclyn says, “It’s less about trends and more about alignment. Is it a frequency match for you?”
If you’re looking for a step-by-step guide to clarify what design style truly fits you, take a look at Jaclyn’s post “How to Find Your Interior Design Style” — it walks you through different aesthetics and helps you find the one that feels timeless, authentic, and you.”
Let Your Passions Lead the Way
Homes should reflect the passions of the people inside them. For Jaclyn, books fill her library shelves. For Sam, it’s the garage gym.
Your version might be art, travel treasures, music equipment, or heirloom quilts. Whatever sparks joy belongs in your space. Jaclyn reminds her clients that allowing hobbies and passions into design makes a home feel timeless, not trendy.
Even sentimental items count. On the shelves of their library, Jaclyn displays sketches her grandmother drew in the 1940s. They’re not expensive, but they carry soul. “They mean the world to me,” she said, “and that’s what matters.”
If you’re drawn to warmth, texture, and timeless elegance, you’ll love “Spanish Style Homes Interior Design.” Jaclyn dives deep into rich, soulful design elements—think terracotta, beams, wrought iron—that make a home unmistakably alive.
Mix & Layer Meaningfully
Forget rigid rules. Your home doesn’t need to fit a single style label. Jaclyn loves layering Mediterranean textures with modern art, heirlooms with artisan finds, Facebook Marketplace gems with custom pieces.
“Think of your home like a wardrobe,” she explained. “A Zara sweater can look incredible with a cashmere scarf. It’s the mix that makes it yours.”
Layering textures, styles, and stories makes a home feel lived-in and real. It’s not about perfection — it’s about resonance.
Jaclyn also shares a soulful guide on “How To Match Rugs With Floor Colors” — a simple, style-forward way to layer depth and personality into your space.
Edit with Intention
Sometimes subtracting is more powerful than adding. Jaclyn isn’t a minimalist, but she believes in letting go of what no longer resonates.
She often tells clients: Don’t settle for good enough. That chair you don’t love? Release it. That color that once thrilled you but now feels heavy? Change it.
Design evolves as we do. Ten years ago Jaclyn loved turquoise accents; now she craves neutrals. And that’s okay. Growth means your home should grow with you.
To nurture not just the look, but the feel of your home, you might love “How to Make Your Home Healthier (Without Getting Overwhelmed),” offering clean-living tips that elevate the energy of your space.
The Courage to Ignore Opinions
One truth Jaclyn and Sam have learned? Not everyone will understand your design choices.
When they posted a kitchen renovation online, someone commented, “You ruined it.” But Jaclyn didn’t waver. “Your home should be authentic to you,” she said. “It’s okay if not everyone likes it.”
Trends will always come and go. White kitchens were once everywhere, now they’re fading. Stainless steel appliances? Still popular, but not a requirement. What matters is choosing what you love — even if it means swimming against the current.
A Home That Evolves With You
Jaclyn likes to remind people that creating a home is a process. You don’t need to furnish everything overnight. In their own house, major renovations happened first, and furniture has taken time.
She often encourages clients to wait for pieces that truly resonate. That means saving for the sofa you love, or hunting flea markets for artwork that makes your heart skip. “Every piece you interact with daily should bring joy,” she said. “It’s worth the patience.”
Final Thought: Your Home, Your Frequency
At the heart of it, how to make your home reflect your personality isn’t about copying a Pinterest board or keeping up with trends. It’s about building a sanctuary that feels like a mirror of your heart.
Jaclyn calls this high frequency living. A home that pours into you as much as you pour into it. A space that whispers back your values, passions, and story.
So maybe the question is simple: What’s one small change you could make this week to make your home feel more you? Hang that artwork you’ve been saving. Move that chair into the light-filled corner. Frame your grandmother’s sketch.
Over time, each small, intentional choice builds a home that is deeply, beautifully yours.
Live on purpose. Live on frequency. And let your home remind you of who you are becoming.
Ien Araneta - editor of The Freq Show & The Beckon Times
