How conflict can lead to getting on the same frequency as your partner
You know those moments when you and your partner hit a wall — the conversation gets tense, words get tangled, and suddenly you’re wondering, How did we get here? We’ve all been there, right? But what if I told you those moments — the uncomfortable, heart-racing conflicts — could actually be one of the greatest gifts in your relationship?
In this episode of The Freq Show, Jaclyn and Sam pull back the curtain on one of their own real-life conflicts and show us how it became a turning point for deeper connection. Instead of avoiding the discomfort, they leaned into it, chose honesty, and used conflict as a tool to get back on the same frequency.
Why Conflict Is Not the Enemy — It’s a Signal
Jaclyn opens up about how many of us tend to avoid conflict because it feels like danger or failure. But here’s the truth: conflict is actually a powerful signal that something in the relationship needs attention. It’s like your heart’s way of saying, “Hey, let’s slow down and tune in.”
During their conversation, Jaclyn and Sam highlight that conflict often arises when two people have different expectations, unspoken needs, or unresolved fears. It’s uncomfortable, yes, but it’s also an opportunity to get real about what’s truly going on beneath the surface.
They remind us that the goal isn’t to avoid conflict or pretend everything’s perfect — it’s to learn how to move through it with love and respect.
How Jaclyn & Sam Navigated Their Conflict
What’s so refreshing about this episode is the raw honesty with which Jaclyn and Sam share their own story. They didn’t sugarcoat it — the tension was real, emotions ran high, and they weren’t sure if they’d land in a good place.
But here’s the magic: they chose to listen deeply to each other, even when it was hard. Jaclyn talks about how stepping back and really hearing Sam’s perspective shifted her mindset from “me vs. you” to “us vs. the problem.” Sam shares how allowing himself to be vulnerable — instead of shutting down — helped him connect on a whole new level.
Their experience is a reminder that connection isn’t about being perfect communicators; it’s about being willing to show up authentically, even when it’s messy.
The Role of Compassion and Patience
One of the most beautiful parts of their conversation is how much compassion they extended to themselves and each other. Jaclyn points out that when we’re in conflict, it’s easy to get defensive or frustrated — but patience and kindness are what help us move through it.
They both agree that cultivating compassion for your partner’s feelings, even if they’re different from your own, creates a safe space where healing and understanding can happen.
And it’s not just about compassion for your partner — it’s about being gentle with yourself, too. They encourage us to lean into curiosity instead of judgment, and to remember that every relationship is a work in progress.
Practical Tips to Get on the Same Frequency After Conflict
Jaclyn and Sam don’t just talk theory — they share practical ways they’ve learned to re-align after disagreement:
Pause and breathe: When things get heated, taking a moment to breathe deeply can help calm your nervous system and reset the tone.
Name your feelings: Saying aloud what you’re feeling (without blame) helps your partner understand where you’re coming from.
Ask questions: Instead of assuming you know what your partner means, ask open-ended questions to get curious about their experience.
Seek shared goals: Remind yourselves of the bigger “why” — the love and partnership you’re both committed to.
Make space for repair: After a disagreement, do something together that feels nurturing — a walk, a shared meal, or just sitting quietly.
These little practices create space to reconnect and rebuild trust — and keep you both tuned in to each other’s frequency.
Why Conflict Can Actually Bring You Closer
When you shift how you see conflict — from enemy to opportunity — it changes everything. Jaclyn and Sam explain that navigating disagreements with openness actually deepens intimacy. When you allow yourself to be seen, heard, and understood (even in your hardest moments), it builds a foundation of radical acceptance.
This episode beautifully shows us that couples who learn to do this don’t just survive conflict — they thrive because of it. Conflict becomes a way to grow, evolve, and keep your connection fresh and real.
Final Thought
If you’re feeling stuck in conflict with your partner or afraid to bring up the hard stuff, this episode of The Freq Show is a must-listen. Jaclyn and Sam’s transparency, love, and practical wisdom will inspire you to see your disagreements not as roadblocks — but as invitations to realign and deepen your love.
Remember, every relationship faces conflict. It’s how you choose to respond that shapes your journey together. Lean into the discomfort, speak your truth, and let compassion be your compass. You might just find that the hard conversations bring you closer than ever before.
Live on purpose. Live on frequency.
Ien Araneta - editor of The Freq Show & The Beckon Times
